That doesn’t mean that I have to put up pictures of my ass just because some guy wants me to. (Referring to this post.) And that certainly doesn’t mean that we are on OKC to have sex with every passing gentleman that visits our profile.
The point we’re trying to make with this blog is that women should be able to search for casual sex in the same way that men are—without harassment, and of our own volition. Our bodies are our own, and we are asserting this right to bodily autonomy. Unfortunately many men feel entitled to our bodies.
A: Yes. Calling me ‘alluring’ negates my agency, and plays into the patriarchal narrative that women exist to try and attract men. My OKC profile doesn’t exist as an attempt to attract men to me, making me a passive object in the relationship with whoever visits me. First and foremost it exists for me to look for people I’m attracted to. If you take one thing away from this tumblr it should be that women are active agents in their own sex lives.